Why people become UNHAPPY
Every now and then I will encounter a person who is claiming they are unhappy with their place of employment. It almost always baffles me when I know they have a tremendous amount going for them where they work. They are making a good amount of money, they are being productive, they are providing a good life for their family, and the work around good people. So what gives? Why do they feel unsatisfied?
I heard a statistic about marriage that also matches the people who aren’t satisfied with their job. In a marriage a spouse can only provide you with about 70-80% of what you desire, leaving them with 20-30% of their needs unmet. Being the wonderful and well-informed spouses they are, they tend to focus their attention on those unmet needs. Their minds become so ingrained in their desires for that missing 20-30% they seek it out in other places. Often they will find it in other people.
For a while, they are so happy that those neglected needs are now being met with this new person. It seems so perfect. In time however, they start to notice that their needs are being neglected in an area they were previously getting from their previous spouse. They are still only having 70-80% of their desires met; it is just distributed in a different area. Unhappiness strikes again and they leave once again in pursuit of the 100% person, who of course doesn’t show up.
This is the way employment works. If you focus on what you don’t have you will never really appreciate what you do have right in front of you. This is the reason people jump from job to job and marriage to marriage. When I look at applications of possible candidates, I look at the work history. After a little investigation it’s easy to determine their length of time they become unsatisfied with the 20-30%. This is where the term job jumper comes from.
Focus on the 70-80% and be grateful for what you have and work on improving it. There is no perfect job. Every job is what you make it. There is no perfect marriage out of the box. You have to make it perfect. Find the missing 20-30% by developing yourself.